Today's Article

Carried By The Wind of Fate

As dawn broke this morning I was on a hill top, looking out across Somerset, to lights that twinkled as far away as Devon and out on the coast of Wales.

Behind me were the ruins of an old settlement and I was alone, but for a few birds cruising on the wind.

As I watched the birds being carried on the wind, I noticed how flexible they were and how they adapted to the thermals and the gusts of wind.

As I headed home for breakfast with the family, I was thinking about how a bird can use the wind and likening it to how we use the winds of fate - do we fly into the wind, or do we use the wind?

If you've ever walked into a howling, gusty gale you'll know how it takes your breath away and how sometime it can be hard to put one foot in front of the other.

And if you've ever turned around and allowed the wind to blow you, you'll know how much it can push you along.

Life can be like this sometimes.

I was watching to young people argue a while ago. As an adult sometimes we might feel the impulse to mediate, but more and more I'm choosing not to do that.

These days, more and more, I'm sitting back, detaching and suspending any judgments about the rights and wrongs.

These children were interesting to watch.

Especially when one of them had the wisdom to notice that he couldn't fly in the face of the prevailing wind.

He ended the dispute. "So!", he said flexing an outstretched tongue. With that he jumped up, did a very strange running on the spot kind of jig and walked away from the table as though a wind was blowing at his back.

As he walked away I closed my eyes and sent a wish to him that as he grew up he would have the wisdom to know arguments can never be won.

As I looked at the other young man, I could tell he was still fuming. His brow was furrowed, his jaw locked and his body stiff. I hoped he would feel the storm in his body, not like it and notice that arguing made him feel upset and rigid.

The winds that we face in life don't always seem fair. But we can choose to accept that this is the way things are and turn ourselves so the wind is behind us, or choose to flap and fight against it.

One gives us energy and support, the other drains it away.

But please understand I'm not advocating a "whatever will be will be" attitude that just shrugs and says "Oh well" to everything.

What I'm suggesting we do is looking at the situation. Asking how we can use what is happening to better our understanding of life and the way things work.

For example if you have a an injury - say a back pain - ask how can you use it to understand life better.

When I had back ache I learned to accept that am not as independent as I might like to think I am. I had no option but to learnt to allow other people to help.

I learnt about allowing support and kindness. I learnt about working with my body, having greater respect for it and supporting myself in a kinder more caring manner.

The key to being carried by the winds of fate and resolving life in a way we are truly happy with are not complicated.

It starts by opening up our awareness to what is happening. Are the finances awful? Are we struggling to get life together? Are we struggling with weight and health? Do you feel that a little more confidence would help you go a long way?

If the answer to any of these is yes, then don't wait another moment! Last year I help people resolve their debts and move forward, helped several people find happy relationships and helped other improve unhappy one too. Several of my clients also had break through's with food and health issues and one of the biggest pluses my clients had was confidence.

Turn yourself on to life now

With love and good wishes
Neil